The Quad
Different is not a deficit.
We’re not trying to fit in. We’re figuring out how to thrive — as kids, as parents, as families, and as a community.
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What The Quad is
The Quad (四合緣) is a community for the whole family living with neurodivergence, whether that’s ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or any other kind of differently wired. That means parents, siblings, grandparents, and helpers, because everyone at home is part of the story. We started it because we’re living it too. We believe neurodivergence is a different operating system, not something to be ashamed of, one that comes with challenges but also creativity, passion, resilience, and extraordinary potential. We don’t replace the support you already have from therapists, doctors, or school. We’re what carries on at home, in the everyday moments in between. What helped us most was finding other parents who understand, so that’s what we’re building: coffee mornings, honest stories, and a circle of families who show up for each other.
When you walk in, you’re welcome. You’re not judged. You’re supported.
Who we are
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Carrie Seto
I’m Carrie Seto — a parent, entrepreneur, community builder, and one of the co-founders of The Quad. The idea for The Quad grew out of my family’s own ADHD journey with my son, Carson. Along the way, I found that beyond conversations with schools and a handful of professional referrals, there was very little practical support, real-life insight, or community for families navigating a neurodivergent path. What surprised me most was that the more openly I talked about ADHD, the more people quietly shared their own stories: a child, a spouse, a sibling, or even themselves. As the mother of a child with ADHD, and the wife of a husband who’s pretty sure he has it too, I understand both the beauty and the challenges that come with a differently wired brain. I also know how isolating it can feel when the people around you don’t quite understand what life looks like behind closed doors. The Quad is the kind of space I wished existed: genuine, and true to who we are. A place where families can find support, practical tools, shared experiences, and a community that sees strengths before deficits.
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Ben Li
I’m Ben — dad, entrepreneur, and the one on this team who builds the systems, mostly because I need them more than anyone. Four years ago, I’d never heard of occupational therapy, speech therapy, or a psychoeducational assessment until Carson’s school said the words. I nodded along like I understood, mostly out of fear of looking like I didn’t. I didn’t. If it was that opaque to me — bilingual, connected, kids at one of the best schools in the city — it’s opaque to everyone. I’m not formally diagnosed. I did, however, build an entire AI system to remember things for me, so draw your own conclusions. The job I’m working hardest at is being a better dad to Carson and Bennett, which mostly means learning to choose the supportive thing to say over the fearful one. I spent years in hospitality learning how to make people feel welcome. The Quad is where I get to do that for families like ours: you’re understood, not judged, and supported.
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Gladys
I’m Gladys — mum of four, educator, and one of the co-founders of The Quad. I thought I knew ADHD. I’d studied it, taught kids who had it, and I have it myself. Then, ten years ago, my stepson was diagnosed, and I learned that knowing ADHD and parenting it are two very different things. Being a step-mum to two already came with its own weight. Then our family grew to six, and ADHD turned out to be all around me: in me, in my husband, and in both of my eldest. No two of us are wired the same way. I lost my temper more than I’d like to admit, and kept reasoning with kids who were way past reasoning. As a teacher, I saw strengths. As a mum, I saw gaps. Love raises the stakes. It took years to learn that walking away, calming down and coming back to explain isn’t giving up. It’s parenting the brain in front of you. I still get it wrong. It’s okay to be wrong, as long as we’re a little better today than yesterday. If you feel lost right now, I’ve been there. In Chinese there’s a word for the people you were always meant to find: 緣. I hope you find yours here.
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Newton
I’m Newton — dad of four, entrepreneur, and one of the co-founders of The Quad. I grew up when nobody really talked about ADHD. What I remember is being labelled — naughty, distracted, not trying hard enough. I often felt out of sync, like I was there but not fully connected. I just assumed that was who I was. For me, ADHD was never just about attention. There was the anxiety, the low periods, the feeling that I was always struggling with things that seemed easier for everyone else. And when you don’t understand why your brain works differently, it’s very easy to think the problem is simply you. Then I became a parent. Watching my own kids — two diagnosed with ADHD, and two still finding their way — made me look back at my childhood differently. It made me wonder how things might have been if someone had helped me understand myself earlier. We talk a lot about helping children with ADHD, but not enough about what happens when they grow up and become adults, partners, parents, carrying everything they learned about themselves along the way. That’s why I’m building The Quad. A place where we don’t just ask, “How do we help this child?” but also, “What happens to this child when they grow up?”
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